Are you interested in receiving a tantric massage but still have questions? Are you wondering what is special about tantric massage for healing? How is it different from other tantric massages? Or you are curious to try but may not quite know what makes you hesitate?
I have compiled a list of frequently asked questions from my clients on tantric massage, lingam massage, prostate massage, and yoni massage. See how the essentials about tantric massage are explained. Maybe this can give you some clarifications, or even inspirations.
FAQs for tantric massage - list of topics:
Q: Experience - Do I need to have any background knowledge to benefit from a tantric massage?
A: There is no need for any background or knowledge to benefit from a tantric massage session. You will learn all the necessary tools and practices through my explanation and guidance during the session. The pace of the session is adapted to you. You are also welcome to ask for a pause if you are uncertain about anything at any time during a session.
Q: Experience - I am new to tantra and feel nervous about having a tantric massage. Is it normal?
A: It's very normal to feel nervous about such a level of intimacy and vulnerability with someone who is not your intimate partner. But actually a lot of my clients are new to tantra and to the body-mind approach. I will be guiding and supporting you throughout the process with my professionalism, experience, and dedication. Also, all emotions and feelings that are coming up are welcome, and they are materials that we would work on too.
Q: Procedures—What does a tantric massage session look like?
A typical session consists of a professional consultation to discuss issues, intentions, process, questions, focus, etc., tantric rituals (e.g., cleansing, connection), warm-up or transition with somatic and connection exercises with verbal guidance and through direct touch, and in-depth full-body healing process Rest and integration.
Q: Consultation - What is the ratio between massage and the professional consultation / coaching?
A: The professional consultation typically lasts between 20 to 30 minutes at the beginning of the session. Then around 30 minutes of introductory transition with verbal guidance plus touch, then the remaining time will be mostly guidance by touch. The majority of the session is touch-focused, such as full-body discovery, therapeutic processes, genital mapping, etc.
Q: Duration - How long are the tantric healing bodywork sessions?
A: The minimum duration of a session is 3.5 hours. Longer sessions last between 4.5 to 5 hours. For some clients, it is advisable to take out two or more sessions with a gradual approach. Because of the depth of the process, I do not offer shorter sessions.
Q: Location - Where does the tantric massage session take place? Do you do visits to clients' location?
A: The massage sessions take place in the healing space specifically set up for the tantric massage sessions. It is in a private house. I take care to ensure that the energy of the space is propitious for a deep and healing experience. Thus, I also do not do visits to clients' house or hotel rooms.
Q: Cost - How much does a tantric massage sessions cost?
A: The fees varies depending on a fee factors, e.g. the length of the session, number of sessions undertaken, locations of the session, etc. It ranges typically between USD 200 to 500. The fees are lower in south-east Asia.
Q: Consent and boundaries - Does the tantric massage touch on the whole body, including the genitals?
A: Where you will be touched (or not) is completely defined by you. I support you to find out your preferences, boundaries, and consent initially through a prior online questionnaire and during the professional consultation. Most important, though, is that you will be guided to understand how you feel in the moment and give your final real-time consent. You will not be touched in any way that you are not truly ready for.
Q: Genitals - Is tantric massage focused only on the genitals?
A: Tantric massage is a full-body process because the whole body is connected. A lot of emphasis is on the abdomen, the pelvis, the genitals, the buttocks, the anus, the thighs, and the chest (depending on your consent and boundaries).
Q: Nakedness - Am I naked during the whole session?
A: During the professional consultation, you are fully dressed. Afterwards, you change into wearing only a sarong (a large piece of light cloth), or light clothing, or boxers (for men) / panties (for women), mostly depending on your comfort level. The sarong will be removed gradually during the session. You may become fully naked, or you may keep part of your body covered, depending on your comfort level. Some clients choose to take a step-by-step approach through multiple sessions, gradually increasing the level of body exposure or opening up to more vulnerability.
Q: Nakedness - Is the tantric massage practitioner naked during the session?
A: No, the practitioner remains fully dressed during the whole session in all circumstances. I usually wear a simple top and pants suitable for bodywork and movement.
Q: Touch - Is there mutual touch with the tantric massage practitioner?
A: No, the sessions do not include mutual (two-way) touch. This tantric massage aims for you to receive touch and focus on what arises within you: sensation, emotions, memories, images, thoughts, etc.
Q: Touch - How does the tantric massage practitioner touch me? Does tantric massage involves kissing?
A: I use mostly my hands and arms to touch and may use other parts of my body except the bikini areas. There is no kissing, nor does the practitioner use her mouth to touch any part of the body of the client.
Q: Massage - Is tantric massage the same as erotic massage?
A: No, it is not an erotic massage. Authentic tantric massage supports you to expand your awareness and energy , and tune in deeply to your body, which brings heightened sensations. Although it can feel very erotic, it is focused on you receiving touch. It is not a sexual service.
Q: Massage - What is the difference between bodywork and massage in your tantra session?
A: One key difference from an ordinary massage is that this tantric healing massage invites your full awareness to participate in the process, focusing on your bodily sensations and breathing, instead of the traditional way of passively receiving touch. We also welcome any emotions, thoughts, or any other information that may arise within the body while being touched. The pace of the process is mostly slow and contemplative. It can, however, become very fast and intense at some points as well.
Q: Medicines - Do you use any medicines, such as herbals, Ayurvedic, shamanic, or other traditional lineages?
A: No, I do not use any medicines or substances. I also request my clients not to use any substances, alcohol, or drugs (recreational, psychedelic, shamanic, etc.) before or on the day of the session. We will work to enhance and deepen our awareness in the body, and that is what heightens the experience.
Q: Intake - Is there an intake process?
A: There's an intake form that invites you to share about your intentions, state of being, health conditions, etc. Based on your responses, I can propose a session. In some circumstances, I may invite you for an online call to discuss before we confirm a session. You are also welcome to request a free consultation call of up to 30 minutes to support you in making choices about a healing session.
Q: Trauma - I had a past trauma. Can I participate in this tantric massage?
A: This tantric healing bodywork is a trauma-aware and trauma-sensitive process that takes into account the consequences of violence and abuse. The consequence of violence and abuses can remain in the body long after surviving the experience . But its influence on each person can be hugely different. Some people can readily benefit from this healing, while some others may need a gradual approach (e.g., starting with clothes-on / no genital touch), or even prior or simultaneous support from other professional therapists.
If you have such past experience, you are welcome to contact me to have a free online consultation to understand what might be most beneficial to you.
Q: Spirituality - Is tantric massage spiritual ?
A: Tantra brings awareness into all sensations, including pleasure, but it can also be pain that needs to be processed. So yes, you may say it has a deeper spiritual dimension to pleasure. When your awareness is wider and deeper, you will be able to perceive more, so it actually also enhances pleasure. The heightened sensations are sometimes experienced as tantric massage energy.
Q: Healing - What do men usually focus on during a tantric massage?
A: Tantric massage / lingam massage benefits men in many ways. Sessions for men may focus on therapeutic outcomes for issues with sexual functions such as ejaculation or erection (e.g. erectile dysfunction, pre-mature ejaculation), relieving pelvic tension, managing stress (e.g. performance anxiety, addiction, hypersexuality) and prostate health (e.g. enlarged prostate, prostatitis, cancer prevention). They also enhance sexuality and vitality through the cultivation of sexual energy (e.g. low libido, aging), letting go of limiting emotions such as shame or guilt around sexuality (e.g. body dysmorphia), deepening connections with the body, finding peace, and expanding awareness and pleasure.
Q: Healing - What do women usually focus on during a tantric massage?
A: Tantric massage / yoni massage benefits women in many ways, too. Sessions for women may focus on releasing emotional blockages and energetic stagnancies in the body caused by past trauma, abuse, or stress. You are guided to access and expand your own capacity for self-healing. You will explore deeper connections to your feminine essence, discovering new levels of your sensitivity and sensuality, opening up more to intimacy, pleasure, expansion, etc. You may also focus on challenges in sexuality (e.g. body shame, difficulty to orgasm, vaginismus, vulvodynia, pain during sex, low libido). It is a safe space where you will be supported to step into the sacred power within you, working with clarity in communication, consent, and boundaries.
Q: Contraindications—Are there any conditions that I should take care about before participating in a session of tantric massage for healing?
A: During the intake process, you are invited to share if you have experienced or are experiencing certain conditions. You are also welcome to raise any uncertainties about your conditions that are not mentioned in the intake form by email, direct message, or during the free online consultation. We would discuss whether it would be fine for you to receive this tantric healing massage or if it would be beneficial for you to first consult your medical / other professional practitioner.
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